let me share a very interesting aspect of our personality which we often exhibit in many given situation at any given point.
This Phenomenon is called " Locus of control". This term is reiterated in management books to explain personality type
Locus of Control(LOC) was a term coined by Julian Rotter in 1960s.
LOC refers to individual's perception of main causes of events in life that one attribute to themselves or to destiny.
Very often most of us blame situation or other external forces ( luck , people etc) for our behavior , outcomes, failures etc. This kind of response is called External Locus of Control.
People with External LOC tend to be negative in Life. And Keep blaming one's fate for failures.
People who assume themselves responsible for outcomes failures, success etc are with Internal LOC. These people are high on self efficacy. Are more success-full compared to people with external LOC.
So next time you judge a situation or yourself or others consider these aspect. May be it will help you take better decisions...................
"Held your self responsible. Control a situation or else it will control you"
So you can inculcate internal or external LOC depending upon your preference in life....
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Frineds Continuing from Nimmme's note, i would like to repsent an Article from
ReplyDeletePARAMAHAMSA NITHYANANDA in Economics Times:
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MOST of us unconsciously believe that life is filled with incidents that are under the control of our logic. But life again and again reminds you of the truth that life is beyond your logic. You are reminded of this fact, especially when some near and dear friend dies or when something unexpected happens. If you lose your job, suddenly you see that life is not under your control. You wake up to the reality that life is beyond your logic. Then you start seeking the Truth.
Especially if you live in the city, your routine is almost fixed. From morning until night, you know exactly how your day will unfold. You know where you will go, what you will do or not do, and what and when you will eat. Practically, your ego gives an idea, your logic gives you the feeling that your life is under the control of your logic. That is why whenever some incident happens that is beyond your logic that is not under your control, you are totally shaken. You are not able to handle it. You don’t know what to do. Either you fall into depression or you just suffer.
There is an important truth, an ultimate secret that you must understand. Never think things are going smoothly because of you. In spite of you, things are going smoothly! This is one of the important secrets. As long as you believe it is because of you that things are going smoothly, you will be constantly suffering with ego.
Death clearly shows that whatever mind you lived with has no real existence. The moment you experience that there is nothing to be achieved, that the diamonds you are protecting are not diamonds but stones, and that all your valuable possessions in life are mere toys, you will understand the purposelessness of life and a new consciousness starts blossoming in you.
The genuine purpose of life cannot be understood without dropping our ego. Understand the divine purpose of life, the leelas or the Divine play; you will enjoy the drama. If you keep thinking that life has a purpose and wait to achieve something, you will miss life itself.
Life itself is the path and the goal. When you have a goal, you will run; your feet will not touch the ground and you will miss the beauty of Existence or nature. When you drop the goal, the emphasis will be on the path.
The meaning of living is the meaning of life or Existence. Drop the goal and enjoy life. Meditate on this teaching again and again. The Truth will dawn on you and the nithyananda (bliss) state will flower in you, the state that is the very meaning of life. Be Blissful!
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Well said Nimmee about LOC ,with your second last point from Bible "Hold yourself responsible. Control a situation or else it will control you".
ReplyDeleteBible says control your anger or it will control you . The same thing is explained in all the religious book to have patience .
It is said in Bhagwat Gita by Lord Krishna that we are only responsible to perform action and not the results . Our duty is to perform action and not wait and think for results , it is the duty of almighty God who takes care of every ones action and suitable result .
What ever we get is the result of our deeds. What we sow we get.
Its human nature to blame external sources for the outcome or results. But everything is the answer of the action performed by us.
It is important for each and every human being to take part or read Spiritual and religious thoughts/books.
Which gives a proper guidance in life. Since childhood whenever I m upset for any reason in life I take help of Srimad Bhagvatam which narrates about Lord Krishna , good thoughts and noble work by great people on this earth.
I hope many more points can be added to this topic by each one of us who are associated with this blog.
Thank you to Mr. Dilip for adding his much valuable comment and bring it to our notice an article by Paramahamsa Nithyananda in Economics Times.